Last night I walked in after a week of long work and soccer nights, so looking forward to cooking and relaxing. I was asked if I was attending back to school night. What? Really? Tonight? Deep breath, adjust quickly, grab take-out and go.
The boys are senior twins so this is my 13th - and last - year of trying to coordinate schedules, priorities and trying to be fair to both. Few parents come by senior year, but it matters to me. I am so busy but this is my chance and I’ve always grabbed it to get a taste of what their days are like.
As any of you parents with grown kids knows, it is not always easy going with teenagers, and I have three, so last night I prepared a special meal and pulled out all the stops. China, fancy place settings, etc, and toasted the kids to my celebration of them. Candles everywhere. After dinner, I had written out the lyrics to a love song that reflected my own sentiments for them. I read the lyrics to them, then played the actual song for them. Three of us joined hands in the candlelight together while we listened, but one wouldn’t bite. Sigh.
So why do we do it? Day in and day out? Every parent teacher meeting x 3, every back to school night x 3, every sports event times three, school concerts, coaching teams that normally the dad does, etc? To me, the answer is pretty obvious: Because we love them with all our hearts and will not give up. They challenge us at times, but somewhere in their teenage brains, maybe someday the parenting will stick. They will always know that their mom loved them fiercely and was always there, no matter what.
It is a long road but one that is passing all too quickly. But as my seniors graduate and move on to college and leave the nest as they are supposed to, I will look back and know I gave it my all, with joy. A mother’s love just doesn’t quit.