We all face obstacles. Some are simply being too busy without enough hours in the day; others are heart-breaking. So how do I cope? Here are some of the ways I get through the tough days:
• Keep busy – I love to come to work and focus. Then I go home and have even more to do. Some would say I am distracting myself, but it helps my positive frame of mind.
• I carve out time for myself. I do my best to get out whenever I can – glorious 5K hobble (as I call it) - yesterday, on a warm December day – heaven!
• I make home-cooked meals for my kids every night they’re home. It is important to me and is a gift of love. They appreciate it. It doesn’t have to be fancy but is a priority. As they get older, I see less and less of them, so this is very important and makes me feel good.
• Music is always at the top of the list and I sleep with headphones on, drifting off to my favorite artists and gentle tunes. Always a winner.
• My son plays great guitar and I love listening in on his lessons. I sit on the stairs out of sight, and sometimes sing along quietly – or not so much.
• My time before bed– favorite tv show, watch a dvd, do a crossword, whatever. I try never to end my day with a task. There are always more tasks. "Me" time counts.
• Re-building my support network. My friends and I have drifted apart for unintended reasons and I am making a conscious effort to re-connect. Socialize, get out more. Very important and I have a lot of support out there. No need to face obstacles alone.
• Laugh. Something usually makes me crack up that I come upon. As they say, it's the best medicine, and comes up as a surprise, delighting me.
• Sleep, a key element – needs improvement.
And when all else fails, I never forget the words of Scarlett O’Hara – “well after all, tomorrow’s a new day”. Yes it is.